Culture Conversation: STAFF PICK


This week on social media we stumbled upon some really good culture conversation topics. Particularly this post on "Ghosting". Ghosting is a colloquial term used to describe the practice of ceasing all communication and contact with a partner, friend, or similar individual without any apparent warning or justification and subsequently ignoring any attempts to reach out or communicate made by said partner, friend, or individual.

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The post refers to "Ghosting"as emotional abuse. Our staff has differing opinions on the matter.

Because, ghosting can be a form of protecting your peace. What do you do when someone no longer serves your well being? Or when you no longer wish to continue contact? What if you have already tried explaining to the person that you don't like their energy or are better off without them?

At that point is ignoring their text messages, phone calls, etc. a form of emotional abuse? Are you the abuser or are you protecting yourself?

On the other hand what if the person you are actively ignoring confused? Do they actually understand why you don't want to talk anymore? Or maintain any kind of contact?

We see situations like this occur often in life. Whether it's a significant other, friend, or even family member. What are your thoughts? We'd love to have a healthy conversation on this!

Leave your opinion in the comments below. (Keep it classy!)

 


8 comments


  • Valerie

    Ghosting/emotional abuse in my experience exists when there is no closure. I think everyone deserves to know why. Once that’s been established then move on and be ghost. If the person being ghosted is having a hard time letting go that’s in him/her.


  • SLB

    you can’t expect YOU from others. Just because you wouldn’t do it, doesn’t your right and those that do it wrong. 9/10 if I don’t want to be bothered, I’ve told you nicely already. I’m not forcing myself to engage people that I don’t want to engage with and nobody can make me feel bad about it. Its better I don’t engage than to engage negatively or rudely because now it’s a forced interaction. Let people do what works for them when it comes to protecting their peace from those who either always ruin it or can’t contribute to it.


  • Renea Gott

    I think all actions vary w/ age and experiences and also w/ time. I was bullied as a child and i just let it Roll off, but now after my marriage did not go so well because I put my best foot forward in all I do, (n0 car accident in 31 years, (hint, hint) now anything rejection-wise gets to me, but maybe this person that I feel has just ghosted me does notwant 2 hurt my feelings, so just chooses to not answer because they verbally do not want to say your’re “not quite” what I was looking for, so I say trying to save someone’s feelings is not abusive, and yes Silence speaks very loudly!


  • Angela

    Personally, I do not consider “ghosting” as emotional abuse. Because of the speed at which we can communicate it has made people hypersensitive as it relates to social media and receiving responses. We feel entitled to an answer. In our culture, a response is a courtesy, not a requirement. I agree that ghosting is rude, lazy, annoying, even passive-aggresive. But I have never suffered from psychological or emotional trauma when it has been done to me. In light of the current social climate I think we should be careful labeling non-responsive people with heavy words like “abusive” … it’s a slippery slope. With that said, abuse is subjective. I’m not a psychologist or anything, but I don’t believe an alleged “abuser” can’t deem what is or isn’t harmful to the person on the receiving end.


  • Stephanie

    No response is a response…and a powerful one at that! No one owes us ANYTHING; even pleasantries or closure! It would be awesome if everyone had an evolved sense of decency and communication skills but they don’t and often we are left to read the nonverbal cues (which are just as telling…if not more).


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