10 Steps To Being a Better Wife - "Step One"

September 08, 2014 11 Comments

Dear Married Chicas and "Wives in Training" : For the next 10 Days, We're sharing parts of an article from MSN Living. Feel free to share your thoughts below:

10 Steps To Being a Better Wife:



Some guys might not realize this, but when most women get married they usually imagine cozy evenings by a fire, sharing their hopes and dreams with the men they love. Our Prince Charmings, however, sometimes turn into The Grinches Who Stole Romance, lying on the couch with a beer in one hand and a remote in the other. You may have noticed our displeasure about this on occasion.

However, in the interest of your willingness to cater to our needs, here's a list for the women out there. Ladies, instead of trying to fix your flawed but lovable husband, why not start by looking in the mirror? These 10 steps will help you re-energize your marriage and renew your appreciation for the former Mr. Perfect.

1) Take Care of Yourself

Turns out that the best thing you can do for your husband is also good for you. Eat healthy foods, maintain good grooming, and exercise regularly. You'll look and feel better, and you'll continue to be the vibrant and attractive woman he fell in love with, no matter your age.





11 Responses

Adrienne
Adrienne

September 12, 2014

Cara you have hit the nail on the head with that comment, although I find myself lately just the opposit. All the late nights chatting over snacks and many dinner dates and movies I find myself 40 lbs larger than I was when we meet almost 3 years ago and it has really taken a toll on me (US). I believe that taking care of self should be #1. It’s so hard to find balance for me right now. My smile is different everything is different and i’m at a lost of how to get it back

Monica
Monica

September 12, 2014

Hi ladies I’ve dated my high school sweetheart for nine yrs. and have been married almost 20. I have to say in this day and time marriage don’t last this long anymore. I thank GOD for my husband and 3 young men(sons). Yes in the beginning marriage is all that and a bag of chips, but as the yrs. go by things do change but you have to remember why you fell in LOVE in the first place.My husbnd and I are interested in the same things(well most things) just to name a few. Were both believers in CHRIST JESUS, were sport fans,we have good moral standards so for the most part that makes us compatable to one another.We both have lazy days when we just don’t feel like doing anything, so we take those lazy days together. (ex) if he don’t feel like doing yard work and I don’t feel like doing house work then that’s our lazy day, but we both motivate each other to get the job done at some point. Marriage is hard work and alot of flaws come with it, but through it all the GOOD outways the bad. GOD istituted marriage (Adam and Eve) and so therfore I,we,you have to endore til the end. Always remember to communicate and keep FOLKS outcha business.

Renee
Renee

September 09, 2014

I’m sorry but step one doesn’t work for all. I do all that and more still get the same reaction. I also invite him to workout with me. But that’s not stopping me from continuing on.

Monica
Monica

September 09, 2014

Being healthy does not mean just the body; but there needs to be some healthy dose of mental and spiritual exercise. Recognize the importance of a balanced life will definitely be worthwhile.

Gerri
Gerri

September 09, 2014

Well…I may sound like the most negative person in the world here but I have to be honest. I totally agree with taking care of yourself. I am 55 years old and I know thatthat if you didn’t grow up with me you will not be able to tell my age. So I am all for taking care of yourself. However unfortunately there are men out there that are haters more than women and the very thought of you being so interested in YOU will turn them off like a light switch – yes it is sad but true and unfortunately has been my experience before. I try hard not to judge or characterize all men with this asinine trait but it does exist. I never knew men could be jealous in that way especially for someone they claim to love. Anyway nothing and no one will ever stop me from taking care of myself.

NaturalleBlessed
NaturalleBlessed

September 08, 2014

I’m a wife of 7 years, I work for corporate America, manage my own business, have two kids, a cat, and I’m pursing my bachelors degree. Everyday I’m wearing multiple hats, and it’s honestly SO rewarding. BUT I have to, absolutely MUST cater to a specific need of my own everyday as well. This could be reading a page of an interesting book, painting my nails, heck even watching a YouTube natural hair tutorial. As long as I’m doing something that interests ME, the beauty that my hubby fell in love with stands strong! He often tells me that he loves it when he catches me taking care of myself. #LoveThat! And whenever I add a new interests in this journey called life, the entire family responds. They all want to do what mommy does. It’s so rewarding. Be interested in YOU ladies, it’s a natural turn on ;-)

Nina
Nina

September 08, 2014

I’m a stay home mom. Things change when you have kids I put myself last.

Lilly
Lilly

September 08, 2014

I feel that goes for single women too and women in a relationship. Once you start taking care of yourself you will notice how things change. I just started to do this for myself and I am not married. I hope I can continue when I finally get engaged and married. Thanks for these tips.

Tracy
Tracy

September 08, 2014

Omg! Needed this. I started back exercising yesterday and eating right last Saturday. This will definitely help me stay on track to being better. Married life can be challenging on top of being mom, daughter, friend, employee..
NGR as always, all the way here in Michigan

Devita
Devita

September 08, 2014

I understand sometime we get comfortable and don’t keep ourselves looking good. Then it turns into a habit and expect our mate to still be attracted to us. I also believe it is a two way street we want our men to look good for us as well .

Cara
Cara

September 08, 2014

I agree with this one. When I am happy and healthy I am better able to give my best. My smile is different, my laugh is different. Which creates constant reminders for him about why he fell for me in the first place. The random glances and I love yous are non stop when he re-recognizes my strength to deal with the everyday madness and continue to be the lady he loves. Oh and when you’re in happy and in a good place you are more… Umm shall I say giving lol

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